As my previous post has described, my gf is away studying abroad for a couple months, until the middle of December.

We've been dating for about a year, and we're definately in love with each other.

The issue is that I'm seriously down about it at times. I'm use to being with her a lot, and when we're not together, I feel pretty damn sad. It might be combined with the fact that a lot of my friends are away right now too, but I feel kinda lonely.

I know she'll be back in a couple months and things will be fine, but I still feel really down at times, and I'm wondering what kind of thoughts/actions could help with this.

I realize that this is a difficult period that will make me stronger in the end, but does anyoen have any suggestions to ease the feelings?

It just hurts to think that I won't be able to see her for 3 months. Right now, I'm trying to remain optimistic and all, and try to pull my mind away from it, but I seem to keep thinking about her. I tried to go do my workout today, but I ended up cutting it early just because I felt so sh*tty.

Anyway, anyone felt like this before?

I had to respond to this thread since I saw my sn in it, heh.

eh. from my experience LDRs don't work. be prepared to find out she hooked up with some guy she met over seas. her interest level in you will probably wane by the time she gets back. depends how long you two been dating and how much she was into you.

women love to have guilt free sexual pleasure over seas, and not having to worry about reciprocating a relationship once they leave. it's almost like a vegas thing. girls go to hook up in vegas. they dont' care who's it with and know they don't have to keep a relationship going, since the guy there is looking for a ONS anyway.

the best advice I could really say is to keep your mind busy and off of her. you'll be tempted to e-mail/txt/call whatever every day and the best thing you can do for your emotional health is to study hard at something you love, be it your career, or a hobby or interest. gym is good as it will release the endorphins you need to feel to keep your self esteem high. easing the pain of oneitis while she's abroad will help if you spin more plates. you don't have to mess around with these girls physically, but go out on a date with a girl and keep it platonic. and if you really care about her, see her family or hang with some of her friends. lastly, don't be a phone buddy. if you fill her in with too many details about her life, you'll kill the mystery and she'll get bored of listening to you. let her fill her imagination with what your doing and who you might actually be seeing on the side.

there are no guarantees though, YOUR interest actually may wane, and you may go for the grass that is greener.

This girl is incredibly into me. Of course anything can happen, but it's not that long of a time period.

Regarding spinning the plates, I don't even feel like going out and approaching other girls right now. That's part of the problem.

workerouter,

hey it has been quite a while.

If it is very unusual for an LDR to work, I had a LDR work for one full year, and we are still dating in college. While it is possible, it is very hard to make it work. I followed all of the DJ principles and kept her interest up. Now, she worships the ground that I walk on. She is also clingy now. She always was and I have had my space away from her.

If you want my advice on how to deal with not seeing her. Try these simple steps.
1.) Refind your passion in life and work on it.
2.) Join a sport
3.) Become social
4.) Exercise alot
5.) Have fun and don't take life too damn hard

comic_relief

WORKEROUTER said:

Anyway, anyone felt like this before?

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NOPE! :crackup:


:woo:

feeling better about the whole thing. going to visit my best friend and dad tomorrow for afew days. went back to the gym and completed my workout today. also, am getting back into BJJ/boxing in a week. getting ready for school as well, which I start in a couple weeks.

spoke to her on the phone today and had a good chat. she's definately into me, as I am into her, and I will do what it takes to make things work. if i do everything i can, and it still does not work, then i will be able to move on.

but in all honesty, i'm almost a hundred percent positive things will work (there's always anomolies). i know the type of girl she is, not only because i've been with her so long, but because i've dated a huge spectrum of different women, some of whom have cheated on me before (and were immediately dumped, btw).

i'm an alpha male, and she knows this. I stunt motorcycles, i fight (MMA), i'm strong and workout a lot, i'm intelligent and have a path in life, i can dance, and i have a backbone that guides me through life.

I've dated many girls, and she knows this. I've dated many girls HOTTER than her, and she knows this. I've also dumped plenty of hot women when they attempt to test me, and she knows this.

most importantly, she knows that I love her, for her. should she knowingly try to f*ck around and test me, she knows that my love for her would immediately be lost, and I would immediately get rid of her in my life.

it would take a very shallow girl to relinquish what she has for a quick fling.