i know that doing cold approaches more often help alleviate approach anxiety, but how do you get over the first approach...? some things that i worry about is my reputation (i.e. like if i say something really stupid and i see that girl again) or if i am percieved as a "creep" even tho im not trying to be.. im a decent looking friendly person and i figure trying to be charismatic in the approach is the solution, but wanted to know how you some of you guys do it..

How? You just do it. Don't even think, just go and do it. There is nothing to "get over" or to be worried about, it's a harmless action, nothing more.

I can already tell you're over-thinking things. The only way to learn is to jump in the deep end buddy.

I always find being genuine helps. There isn't many things more tacky than cheesy confidence, or even false confidence. Be natural, roll up, introduce yourself, and let it flow.

i can picture it in my head, like how the approach is going to be, what im going to say yada yada yada, but like.. when the sitaution presents itself in front of me. i start getting doubts, and before i know it the opportunnity passed me by once again..

rocco said:

i can picture it in my head, like how the approach is going to be, what im going to say yada yada yada, but like.. when the sitaution presents itself in front of me. i start getting doubts, and before i know it the opportunnity passed me by once again..

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Then tell those doubts to fvck off. You have a pair of nuts between your legs, you gotta take hold of them and say this girl is mine, I will have her. There are no excuses, no reasons you can't do it. It's yours, your decision, your goal, your girl.

The next time you have doubts, tell yourself that there are no other options besides success. Get in there and talk. Try not to pre-determine your lines, nothing comes off better than natural charisma. Introduce, talk, charm, the rest is history.

worst thing that has ever happened to me in a Cold Approach
yesterday by the way

was this girl i though was a 6, i was having small talkwhile buying my sandwich and i decided, there is no vibe, no rapport, no interest, but what the hey.

what is your number?
girl " oh please..........(rolls her eyes)


i am way too good for her, she is a high school drop out, earning minimum wage, with a very average body and face, nothing special. But she responded like me hitting on her was an insult hahahahahahahahah

i had a good laugh, first time that ever happens
usually they are flattered, or make up an excuse, really there is nothing to worry about.
the worst the rejection is (doesnt happne too often) the funnier it is when you think about it.
Plus that adrenaline rush is, fun man!!!!!!


just get out there, the more you do it the better you get at it.