Been seeing this girl for 2 months. She just left for vacation with her family for a week. Before she left, she said if you miss me, then call me! I said why dont you call me, since your on vacation with family and all that. She kept saying for me to call her, but for some reason I insisted on her calling me. The night before she left, she got kind of annoyed and just gave me the famous "whatever."

I called the mornig before she left, cuz i felt kind of bad, I was so short with her. I said just wanted to say bye, and call me whenever you want. She said she would. However, I still feel like she isn't going to call for some reason, even though she ALWAYS calls when se says she would. I just talked to her yesterday(the day she left), so I'm probably being a pvssy.

We have been having sex for about 1 month or so, if that means anyhting. Should I give in and call? I never give in with her. When I did call her last she said I made her day. Uh-oh, I'm starting to feel a little one-i-tus!!!! Not good.

Should I just wait for her call? Or step up and call her.

Also...the day after she gets back we have tickets to a show, that I had purchased a while ago, before her. I ended up asking her to come along. If sh doesnt call, I would not take her to this...however I do not want it to come down to that. Why am I all of a sudden acting like a b!tch? lol

You have oneitis.
Next her.

This is a very very tricky one!

I don't really know what to say . . ."If you miss me call me" - it is a curt and somewhat brazen way of putting it, I agree with you there . . It does in a way sound like an ultimatum, and non of us react too kindly to ultimatums. . .:nono:

However, you only been together 2 months, so perhaps she's testing you and wants to see that she means something to you . . There is I fear no black or white answer here - and it really all depends on how you really feel about the girl . .

I personally feel you may be building a mountain out of a mole hill . .I would say just give her a call and see what she saiz . . .I mean - you can't make an omlet without breaking eggs . . . .

There is also the issue, that the phrase "I WANT YOU TO CALL ME", is used IMO as a reciprocating action if you know what I mean . . .Meaning, I would use this phrase only if I took a girl out to dinner, or in other words dedicated myself to her . .And the only way perhaps to find out if she's interested or not is say that phrase and mean it . . . Stick to yr guns no matter what . .But I am not sure to the extent to which this can apply here!

Whatever you decide - Good luck!

Hope this helps . .

p.S . .I am not usually keen to defend women . .However, I simply feel that women are at times so delicate that you need some pragmatism in dealing with them . .

tryin 2 play said:

Been seeing this girl for 2 months. She just left for vacation with her family for a week. Before she left, she said if you miss me, then call me! I said why dont you call me, since your on vacation with family and all that. She kept saying for me to call her, but for some reason I insisted on her calling me. The night before she left, she got kind of annoyed and just gave me the famous "whatever."

I called the mornig before she left, cuz i felt kind of bad, I was so short with her. I said just wanted to say bye, and call me whenever you want. She said she would. However, I still feel like she isn't going to call for some reason, even though she ALWAYS calls when se says she would. I just talked to her yesterday(the day she left), so I'm probably being a pvssy.

We have been having sex for about 1 month or so, if that means anyhting. Should I give in and call? I never give in with her. When I did call her last she said I made her day. Uh-oh, I'm starting to feel a little one-i-tus!!!! Not good.

Should I just wait for her call? Or step up and call her.

Also...the day after she gets back we have tickets to a show, that I had purchased a while ago, before her. I ended up asking her to come along. If sh doesnt call, I would not take her to this...however I do not want it to come down to that. Why am I all of a sudden acting like a b!tch? lol

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The sad reality is..lots of times relationships don't work out. It is tough stuff. Ask any of the gurus and they would probably tell you (David D./Mystery/etc) that unless a woman really has her act together, a relationship is hard. You are "acting" like a ***** all of the sudden, because you have no other options. It is a hard pill to swallow. However, I know how you feel because I've had to deal with the same situation. The best thing you can do is perhaps go meet some new women. Or, if you don't wanna, get into some hobbies. Read some books. Rent some movies. Hang with family and friends. Just stay busy. At worst, you can invite family/friend to it and remember that you should not put yourself in a situation of "commitment" with any woman, till you know without a doubt, she is worth it. Otherwise, you will get in situations where you worry your head off.

So she said gimme a call . . .

And you refused and starting arguing with her???

Dude, isn't that the smallest favor she could possibly ask you?

Advice: Stop arguing about mundane stupid crap.

You have oneitis.
Next her.

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Tongs, WTF are you talking about? You don't next a girl just because you have oneitis. (Which he doesn't have.)

hhhmmmm yeah im not sure. I mean I talked to her saturday, it is only sunday, so she PROBABLY will call. I realize I should have jjust said fine and called when i wanted to call her. I will wait a day or 2, then call and say hi I guess. I dont have one-i-tus, but I can feel it starting to go that way, and I have am busier than anyone I know!

Thanks for the replies. I dont want to look too supplicating, but in the past I have screwed up with girls by being too distant. Any more adivce?

Call her.....You know thats what you want to do anyways. You do have a slight case of oneitis but thats not something you should always be scared of...

Call her with reason thow....Dont just call and say Hi.

Ask her about the gig or something. Anything....Just have reason and it wont look like you are being a pvssy but you are still ringing her....

Win-Win

Tell us how it goes.....


Sarge On!

Tongs said:

You have oneitis.
Next her.

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You idiot....

Any other girl I would just call. With us though, it has kind of been a power struggle the whole time...like who will give in first? This is with almost anything! Usually she caves before me, but sometimes I think i'm taking these games too far.

If you want to call her then call her. Don't do it because she wants it - do it because you want too....

what is the big deal with you calling her. call her if you feel like talking to her. if you dont wanna talk to her dont call. your making a big deal of nothing.

ehh she called. Discussion over. I was just being a pu$$y. Now to work on my one-i-tus thts creeping up slowly.

next time she calls you, tell her you did it all for the nookie! haha that'll mess her up good. but dont' listen to me, I am a bitter man who has made the desperate phone call mistake 999 million times.

Just text her "Thinking about 'ya, hope you're having fun!" and then go enjoy your vacation away from her.

With the exception of Tomatoes and D'Anconia, most of this advice is crap.

for fvck's sake, you've been seeing this girl for 2 months. That's long enough to call it an LTR (at least the beginning stages of one) and you're scared to call her because you don't want to look like a pvssy, just because she asked you too?

If she always calls you and you never call her, believe me, you will score big points if you call her up some time, 'bout halfway through her vacation. But don't just call for no reason.

You should call her when you're out doing something fun and exciting.... Take a small weekend trip and call her while you're on your trip (for example, if you were in Toronto and standing at the top of the CN tower or something), and tell her you were thinking about her. #1 she sees that you're not sitting around waiting for her to come home and #2 it shows that you're into her enough to still think about her while you're out having some fun. you'll score big points, trust me.

If you're involved with a girl for some time, you shouldn't be afraid of oneitis... you should embrace it and enjoy the feeling, when it's mutual. Just don't let it cloud your judgement.

All the guys who scream to stop the oneitis are the guys who have only been on the wrong side of it.

Good point Canadian, TOmatoes and d'Anconia were right too. Whoever said to next her because of oneitis is a moron. I guess it's alright to feel a LITTLE oneitis. I know what this girl's feelings are, but she doesn't always like to verbalize it because she doesnt want to "put herself outthere too much."

But she shows me with her actions (always willing to hang out, asks me sometimes, calls when not he turn, cooks for me, sex all the time, etc...). I guess I could make a little more effort, as everyone I know says I make no efort and she gives a lot!

Thanks for the advice again.

You're right about it not being 'one-itis.' One-itis is pining away for a woman to whom you haven't established any type of relationship; you're just fantasizing about her. Like Bad @ss "C" said, you've established something with this woman and it does need to be nurtured to keep it viable. Like a plant it need water to survive, you just don't need to drown it.