Okay, I've run fresh out of helpful friends, both male and female, regarding this situation, so I turn to you for some insight. I realize you get about 300 of these each day, so I completely understand if you choose to leave this one unanswered.

I'm a fairly experienced guy, in terms of sexuality, having 28 girls under my belt at age 22, but I never seem to manage to hold on to a woman for more than a few weeks at a time, this is just the background, it doesn't relate to my question.

I went on a blind date this monday, well, not completely blind, being as she had my e-mail address, and we did some webcam chatting first. You know the type, tall, blonde, and with a slight crook in her nose, which she seemed selfconcious of.

Everything seemed to be going well, she was giving me eye contact, smiling, and generally appearing positive to my both verbal and physical flirting. We went for a walk alongside a pier, had drinks at an outdoor coffee shop, and went to a movie (her idea) all on the same night.

Communication went good, not perfect, but good. A few pauses, in my experience, is inevitable during the first date. And as I took her home in my car, she almost threw herself at me, giving me a long close hug, a big beautiful smile, and the notion of "we should do this again sometime", and then stating that she was very tired and had to get some sleep soon. I replied that since it was such a beautiful night, I'd stay up a bit longer.

As this seemed to me as an excuse to go "I win, auomatically", I send her a text message on my cellphone stating: "I had fun today, have a good night"

Wake up the next day, no reply. I automatically think that she was probably asleep when I got it, so just to stay safe, I decide to wait. I wait one day, two days, and three, without getting a reply. She said something during the last date about maybe being available on thursday (The date took place monday), so today, I sent a message inquiring if she was having fun at her parents' place.

No reply.

A few hour later, she appears on my msn screen. I wait about half an hour, then inqire: Heya, how are you? She says: Fine, I follow up with my text message reply, in case she didn't get it: Are you having fun at your parents? She says Yes. I ask about her being available on thursday, she replies that she won't be coming home until the weekend. Then she logs off.
I say to myself: What the hell just happened?

A few hours later, she says (still on msn) that she was sorry she left so abruptly, and that she was going skinny dipping with some friends. I simply reply to this with an OK, and she logs off.

What's happening here, is she trying to turn me into a he-*****, and last but not least, what do I do from here? I still have her on my msn contacts list, but with no clue what to do.

Any help greatly appreciated. If any furter details are needed, I'll be happy to let you know to the best of my memory.

Call her instead of text. Tell her you had fun on your date, ask how she's doing, then ask her out again. Make arrangements to pick her up, then end the phone call.

Text messages are difficult to interpret mood.

Also don't worry if she doesn't reply right away. People are busy sometimes.

I called a girl earlier this week and left a message, then she didn't call back right away, and I'm thinking, great she's blowing me off, I blew it, fvck! Then she calls back a day later and I set up another date. The point is don't always think the worst.

But she appeared so dismissive, has she earned a phonecall so soon?

has she earned a phonecall so soon?

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No. When they back off, so do you. Wait until Monday, at least, call and ask for another weekday date.

As for what (might have) went wrong, flirting and hugs don't mean much. She might not be so interested as you think.

And when a date is over, you DISSAPPEAR until you CALL her for the next. No girl will get more into you from your IM/texting conversation skills.

Phyzzle said:

And when a date is over, you DISSAPPEAR until you CALL her for the next. No girl will get more into you from your IM/texting conversation skills.

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Agreed. I went overboard with the goodnight message, but she seemed as if I've broken through during the end of the date, and could almost physically feel her interest. But I maintain that at least, hoping for a kiss the first time we've ever met in a social situation is a bit much IMO.
I've had several second-date fu-cks that ended with hugs on the first date, I feel the trick is to restrain yourself from trying, and thus seem like more of a challenge.

As for physical closeness, a few well-timed touches usually gets through to her.

confront her about it, she knows what shes doing, and she knows you know, shes making you look like a pussbag and losing attraction every second of it, start some drama and get the ***** whipped for you, know that she wants you and know that you can get her **** whipped. she wants you to be dominant.

Man I know that for a fact..... I havent had 28 girls, and Im pretty sure Im a player (not that any girl needs to know lol) are you sure you have had that many girls? bc this situation is soo easy to take care of.

just let it out!

ima str8 up pimp said:

confront her about it, she knows what shes doing, and she knows you know, shes making you look like a pussbag and losing attraction every second of it, start some drama and get the ***** whipped for you, know that she wants you and know that you can get her **** whipped. she wants you to be dominant.

Man I know that for a fact..... I havent had 28 girls, and Im pretty sure Im a player (not that any girl needs to know lol) are you sure you have had that many girls? bc this situation is soo easy to take care of.

just let it out!

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Err, are you kidding me? Drama is a one-way train to Noesville. If she IS interested, she's testing me. If I collapse under the pressure and tell her what for, I will have failed. Miserably. If she isn't, I can safely ignore her until monday, awaiting her call. If she doesn't call, I'll call her and ask her out on a weekday, like suggested. If she says no, then I'll know for sure that she's not into me, end of story. Firing off accusations just makes you look like you have a critically low self esteem.

I think you should have tried to kiss her. Still it may not be a lost cause. Give her a call next week and feel her out. If she still seems distant then you'll have your answer.

Lucas718 said:

I think you should have tried to kiss her. Still it may not be a lost cause. Give her a call next week and feel her out. If she still seems distant then you'll have your answer.

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Yep, that sounds reasonable. Seems as if there are still some adjustments to make in my game.