organizedconfusion
Master Don Juan
wow, it sure has been awhile...it it has been quite an ordeal let me tell you! first off let me start this thread by stating the painfully obvious...if you have any insecurities or anxieties just talking 'normaly' or being in the presence of an attractive girl- a type of girl YOU find attractive..then you need to do some work. NO type of techniques of hypnosis mumbo jumbo will help..nothing will help.The only thing to do is get over the fear itself! This has mostly been discussed a kabillion times over ,but i'd like to share my experiances here...
when i was really really into the whole seduction material scene,i'd study it,rip it apart ,internalize it a little ,then i'd try it out- some worked ,some didn't. Alot of what i learned was inner game,some techiniques and alot of material concerning how a woman thinks and such.Also alot of social status stuff..good material indeed.But there was that one thing missing..i felt as if something was missing at it's core..COMFORT in the presence of girls i felt attracted to.Now notice i said FELT, not THINK- there is a difference,girls i thought were attractive- i merely noticed them with my attention,like wow she's hot..but i felt nothing.Really attractive ones, the ones that gave me the nervious WOW feelings..now those are a different story..you know that feeling guys..that anxious,nervous feeling when you know you 'like' someone..kinda hard to NEG or be mr.cool guy when you are actually the opposite..you actually like her
anyways,i tried the whole talk to a bunch of girls- any- girls approach..and guess what? it never really transfered into what i thought it would..i always figured that if i talked to a million girls, that in time i would no longer become soo nervous and anxious..well..kinda.I no longer have a fear of talking to girls that i am not attracted to..that's about it seriously, no attraction at all,of course it was like talking to a mutual 'friend' or whatever and even if i did spark attraction..i felt nothing on my part,like i could bang them and not even care about it or not..definetly NOT what i am going for nowadays.
I actually WANT a relationship and someone i can just be cool with and spend time with,someone that excites me and look forward to seeing on my days off of work and school i found that eventhough i was more confident in talking to a bunch of girls that i wasn't really attracted to at all- i found that the nervous anxious feeling around really attractive girls..was still there, nothing has changed- i could talk to them but that feeling of arousal and attraction..it urked me because it was like nervous energy that really messed with me.And it screwed me up..until..
i knew what the problem was immediatly, i was focusing way too much on content and the flow of the interaction itself...i wasn't even 'vibe calibrated' or congruent because i was trying to 'think' my way through the interaction.When i look back at all the times i have ever engaged in interactions with the girls that gave me that funny feeling of attraction..i screwed up big time because i didn't know how to react to my intense feelings.But why were they there? Duh, because i like her silly! i hate to sound like a 6th grader or an AFC,but don't lie dude..when those feelings arise and you feel all dorky and giddy and you know she is HOT and you want soo badly just to be around her..it's hard to not act like such a dork.Why?
c'mon she's beautyfull! and the feelings creates inside of you feels good!:crazy:
so what did i do about this? i strictly approached girls that ONLY gave me that funny feeling of attraction and NO ONE ELSE...this was easy since i get this feeling ALOT,but in the past i only approached the 'easy' targets and less threatening ones.But now,with my new found attitude..i just went ahead and did it..no scripts, no techniques , no nothing..i went in head first:crazy:..you name it , i felt it..nervous,anxious,excited,giddy,happy..but mostly..afraid.Now i know what you are thinking..what an AFC punk! Get real..anyone whos ever been in the field knows that feeling and how powerfull and immobilizing it can really be. So what happened? something strange... by just flowing with how i felt, my body seemed to take over- i had a sense of weird calmness over me and i seemed to naturally be displaying natural attraction signals.I kept eye contact longer, i stood more upright yet relaxed, everything i said and the tonality was congruent..didn't matter what i said ,the conversations had a way of leading into the direction i wanted them to.In time,that anxious feeling subsided..and the arousal/attraction feeling naturally triggered a sense of comfort and confidence inside of me when thinking about approaching a good looking girl..it's as if just seeing a beautyfull girl reproduced the same feelings over and over and over again.Each time anchoring it's pleasure more and more with approaching and the pleasures of the interaction.How do i know now who to approach? it's kinda weird,before when i would just approach anyone- i was in fact still clueless to this whole attraction thing..i used to judge solely on looks alone and nothing else.Now i go by how the girl makes me feel and the emotions that she trigger naturally inside of me.How she makes me feel is a good indicator of how likely we are compatible.And more often than not,the ones that i got a good vibe from -we did get along great,single or not-the interactions were both enjoyable and pleasant.Also,i can tell in a split second if we would make a good match just by how she looks at me as she speaks..i can tell if she likes me or not,right then and there..now i am not looking for approval or anything.i am solely going on initial impressions alone.If you guys can't tell if a girl likes you or not..get help! even if she's playing hard to get..it's obvious if a girl likes you ,but then again- if she dislikes you ,the sexual tensions is great as well!
Approaching is no longer tightly bonded to feelings of anxiety or nervousness anymore..through deeling with those feelings and allowing myself to work through and handle them..they have sub-sided and allowed the true feelings of natural attraction and arousal take place.Not only that, but because of this newly resurfaced emotion..my interactions with regular girls,as well as people in general have become dramaticly enjoyable in general! i wasn't soo self-concious or soo focused on content as i was before, now i am more in tune to the vibe of the interaction and the feelings that are going on.
Try this for example, for the next week..forget about approaching immediatly! and just go out and notice a few things.First,girls that give you that funny feeling inside- how ever you feel it.Notice which types of girls give you that feeling and allow those feelings to arise.How many did you spot? If when you thought of approaching them,did those feelings get more and more intense? and if so,did you enjoy those feelings or did they freak you out and make you all nervous inside? what stops you from approaching? and what do you think you would need to approach her? the truth is..nothing.The only thing stopping you is that unfamilairity of how to handle those feelings that arise.Guys that love to approach girls and naturally good with woman? they can handle those feelings,those intial feelings of nervousness? are immediatly replaced with sexual arousal and pleasentness..now imagine your entire state of mind and how you would feel like when you are pleasently aroused versus being nerovus and anxious in the presence of arousal? big difference isn't it? i bet! of course there is more to it than that,but this sis a big key in the development in confidence and just feeling good around really beautyfull girls. If you can't enjoy yourself and feel comfortable in the presence of a beautyfull woman, how would you ever be in a relationship with one,date one and have amazing sex with one? becoming comfortable with intense feelings of attraction/arousal is the first step IMO. Just by going out and doing this, also watching how guys and gals interact with eachother - i can IMMEDIATLY tell who is sexually aware and who isn't in the blink of an eye.
The first step is seeing attraction taking place and also the interaction itself..real attraction,real chemistry,arousal
when i was really really into the whole seduction material scene,i'd study it,rip it apart ,internalize it a little ,then i'd try it out- some worked ,some didn't. Alot of what i learned was inner game,some techiniques and alot of material concerning how a woman thinks and such.Also alot of social status stuff..good material indeed.But there was that one thing missing..i felt as if something was missing at it's core..COMFORT in the presence of girls i felt attracted to.Now notice i said FELT, not THINK- there is a difference,girls i thought were attractive- i merely noticed them with my attention,like wow she's hot..but i felt nothing.Really attractive ones, the ones that gave me the nervious WOW feelings..now those are a different story..you know that feeling guys..that anxious,nervous feeling when you know you 'like' someone..kinda hard to NEG or be mr.cool guy when you are actually the opposite..you actually like her
anyways,i tried the whole talk to a bunch of girls- any- girls approach..and guess what? it never really transfered into what i thought it would..i always figured that if i talked to a million girls, that in time i would no longer become soo nervous and anxious..well..kinda.I no longer have a fear of talking to girls that i am not attracted to..that's about it
seriously, no attraction at all,of course it was like talking to a mutual 'friend' or whatever and even if i did spark attraction..i felt nothing on my part,like i could bang them and not even care about it or not..definetly NOT what i am going for nowadays.I actually WANT a relationship and someone i can just be cool with and spend time with,someone that excites me and look forward to seeing on my days off of work and school
i found that eventhough i was more confident in talking to a bunch of girls that i wasn't really attracted to at all- i found that the nervous anxious feeling around really attractive girls..was still there, nothing has changed- i could talk to them but that feeling of arousal and attraction..it urked me because it was like nervous energy that really messed with me.And it screwed me up..until..i knew what the problem was immediatly, i was focusing way too much on content and the flow of the interaction itself...i wasn't even 'vibe calibrated' or congruent because i was trying to 'think' my way through the interaction.When i look back at all the times i have ever engaged in interactions with the girls that gave me that funny feeling of attraction..i screwed up big time because i didn't know how to react to my intense feelings.But why were they there? Duh, because i like her silly! i hate to sound like a 6th grader or an AFC,but don't lie dude..when those feelings arise and you feel all dorky and giddy and you know she is HOT and you want soo badly just to be around her..it's hard to not act like such a dork.Why?
c'mon she's beautyfull! and the feelings creates inside of you feels good!:crazy:
so what did i do about this? i strictly approached girls that ONLY gave me that funny feeling of attraction and NO ONE ELSE...this was easy since i get this feeling ALOT,but in the past i only approached the 'easy' targets and less threatening ones.But now,with my new found attitude..i just went ahead and did it..no scripts, no techniques , no nothing..i went in head first:crazy:..you name it , i felt it..nervous,anxious,excited,giddy,happy..but mostly..afraid.Now i know what you are thinking..what an AFC punk! Get real..anyone whos ever been in the field knows that feeling and how powerfull and immobilizing it can really be. So what happened? something strange... by just flowing with how i felt, my body seemed to take over- i had a sense of weird calmness over me and i seemed to naturally be displaying natural attraction signals.I kept eye contact longer, i stood more upright yet relaxed, everything i said and the tonality was congruent..didn't matter what i said ,the conversations had a way of leading into the direction i wanted them to.In time,that anxious feeling subsided..and the arousal/attraction feeling naturally triggered a sense of comfort and confidence inside of me when thinking about approaching a good looking girl..it's as if just seeing a beautyfull girl reproduced the same feelings over and over and over again.Each time anchoring it's pleasure more and more with approaching and the pleasures of the interaction.How do i know now who to approach? it's kinda weird,before when i would just approach anyone- i was in fact still clueless to this whole attraction thing..i used to judge solely on looks alone and nothing else.Now i go by how the girl makes me feel and the emotions that she trigger naturally inside of me.How she makes me feel is a good indicator of how likely we are compatible.And more often than not,the ones that i got a good vibe from -we did get along great,single or not-the interactions were both enjoyable and pleasant.Also,i can tell in a split second if we would make a good match just by how she looks at me as she speaks..i can tell if she likes me or not,right then and there..now i am not looking for approval or anything.i am solely going on initial impressions alone.If you guys can't tell if a girl likes you or not..get help! even if she's playing hard to get..it's obvious if a girl likes you ,but then again- if she dislikes you ,the sexual tensions is great as well!
Approaching is no longer tightly bonded to feelings of anxiety or nervousness anymore..through deeling with those feelings and allowing myself to work through and handle them..they have sub-sided and allowed the true feelings of natural attraction and arousal take place.Not only that, but because of this newly resurfaced emotion..my interactions with regular girls,as well as people in general have become dramaticly enjoyable in general! i wasn't soo self-concious or soo focused on content as i was before, now i am more in tune to the vibe of the interaction and the feelings that are going on.
Try this for example, for the next week..forget about approaching immediatly! and just go out and notice a few things.First,girls that give you that funny feeling inside- how ever you feel it.Notice which types of girls give you that feeling and allow those feelings to arise.How many did you spot? If when you thought of approaching them,did those feelings get more and more intense? and if so,did you enjoy those feelings or did they freak you out and make you all nervous inside? what stops you from approaching? and what do you think you would need to approach her? the truth is..nothing.The only thing stopping you is that unfamilairity of how to handle those feelings that arise.Guys that love to approach girls and naturally good with woman? they can handle those feelings,those intial feelings of nervousness? are immediatly replaced with sexual arousal and pleasentness..now imagine your entire state of mind and how you would feel like when you are pleasently aroused versus being nerovus and anxious in the presence of arousal? big difference isn't it? i bet!
of course there is more to it than that,but this sis a big key in the development in confidence and just feeling good around really beautyfull girls. If you can't enjoy yourself and feel comfortable in the presence of a beautyfull woman, how would you ever be in a relationship with one,date one and have amazing sex with one? becoming comfortable with intense feelings of attraction/arousal is the first step IMO. Just by going out and doing this, also watching how guys and gals interact with eachother - i can IMMEDIATLY tell who is sexually aware and who isn't in the blink of an eye.The first step is seeing attraction taking place and also the interaction itself..real attraction,real chemistry,arousal