First of all I want to thank sac_hot_male because it was in talking to him that I stumbled upon a great new way of thinking about conversations and building good rapport.
It is called "The Pyramid" and it is probably the single best way to visualize a conversation.
Think about how a pyramid is build, it is a huge base, and it gets smaller and smaller as you climb higher.
When you first meet a woman you are at the bottom of her pyramid for men, of course she has another pyramid for her woman friends, but you will be on her man pyramid. Now she is going to have her own seperate levels where each of her relationships exists, some guys will be high on the pyramid and some will be low.
But what does the pyramid represent? It represents what you know about a woman, it represents how far you have progressed in your relationship with her. So what is at the bottom of the pyramid? It is general knowledge of the girl, what sports she likes, what music she likes, if she has a boyfriend, etc. It is really general info, nothing you can really build a lasting relationship around. As you move up the pyramid you add more blocks to it and the girl begins to value your relationship more and more and as you get near the top she will essentially love you. So what is at the top of the pyramid? It is her most closely kept secret, the thing that she will only tell someone who she believes she trusts and honors enough to divulge such information.
Things that are blocks you add to the pyramid are things such as: trust, honesty, embarassing stories, experiences you share together, funny stories you each were involved in, touching, kissing, hugging, trips you take, sharing of values, deep conversations, and so on.
If you are at the bottom of a pyramid the woman will have little value for you, because you have offered her nothing except day to day banter. As you get higher she will start to call you and you will value your time with her ten-fold.
Of course this is not a technique for seducing a woman, it is simply a way of thinking to build rapport with a woman. If you desire a sexual relationship you will have to build that into your pyramid with her, because eventually you will get to a point in your pyramid that without sexual interaction you will not be able to get much higher. You might get to a point where you discuss such a relationship and she says she is not interested in you like that and your friendship can continue.
Just remember, build your pyramid, get more specific with her as you climb up, and don't forget to work your sexual interaction with her into the equation.
--Mission
It is called "The Pyramid" and it is probably the single best way to visualize a conversation.
Think about how a pyramid is build, it is a huge base, and it gets smaller and smaller as you climb higher.
When you first meet a woman you are at the bottom of her pyramid for men, of course she has another pyramid for her woman friends, but you will be on her man pyramid. Now she is going to have her own seperate levels where each of her relationships exists, some guys will be high on the pyramid and some will be low.
But what does the pyramid represent? It represents what you know about a woman, it represents how far you have progressed in your relationship with her. So what is at the bottom of the pyramid? It is general knowledge of the girl, what sports she likes, what music she likes, if she has a boyfriend, etc. It is really general info, nothing you can really build a lasting relationship around. As you move up the pyramid you add more blocks to it and the girl begins to value your relationship more and more and as you get near the top she will essentially love you. So what is at the top of the pyramid? It is her most closely kept secret, the thing that she will only tell someone who she believes she trusts and honors enough to divulge such information.
Things that are blocks you add to the pyramid are things such as: trust, honesty, embarassing stories, experiences you share together, funny stories you each were involved in, touching, kissing, hugging, trips you take, sharing of values, deep conversations, and so on.
If you are at the bottom of a pyramid the woman will have little value for you, because you have offered her nothing except day to day banter. As you get higher she will start to call you and you will value your time with her ten-fold.
Of course this is not a technique for seducing a woman, it is simply a way of thinking to build rapport with a woman. If you desire a sexual relationship you will have to build that into your pyramid with her, because eventually you will get to a point in your pyramid that without sexual interaction you will not be able to get much higher. You might get to a point where you discuss such a relationship and she says she is not interested in you like that and your friendship can continue.
Just remember, build your pyramid, get more specific with her as you climb up, and don't forget to work your sexual interaction with her into the equation.
--Mission