I am 40 years old and still a virgin. This a brave confession and I come to you not only to seek help, but also form a common comraderie with others in my situation. I hope I can adopt this board as my new home.

I love women. I absoultely love women. But I have this feeling they don't love me.

The real situation is that I have been avoiding the opposite sex, afraid to say anything to them, and get insanely jealous when I see couples in love.

"why couldn't that be me?" I would often think.

All men deserve to have a shot at getting laid. That is my platform. I will not rest until you, me and everyone in this board gets their night in the sack with a female. We work hard, we cross our t's and dot our i's, we pay our taxes, we suffer under the lash (for you kinky types, that could be a good thing!), and break every bone in our body. We have earned it. For those who stay at home and whine, sack up!

Hail Don Juan!

Man, I'm really baked right now, and that is some totally f'ed up sh¡t.

I can see why you are a virgin by the way you talk. crosses yout t's wtf.

i also suspect this to be a false thread.

Hurrican said:

I can see why you are a virgin by the way you talk. crosses yout t's wtf.

i also suspect this to be a false thread.

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No, I meant that we do everything right. I just downloaded the DJ Boot Camp word doc, and I just identified myself as a RAFC (Reformed Average Frustrated Chump), and taking steps to become the Alpha I always wanted to be.

Forgive me for being dramatic, but I am sick of being a spectator.

No, this is a real thread. Trust me. Nice to meet you.

Lay off the guy. Welcome CloneWolf. PM me if you ever want to talk about game.

Shane

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Boot Camp is a good start. If you have any questions dont hesitate to ask. We are here to help and to be fair my friend.....you need it....

CloneWolf said:

I am 40 years old and still a virgin. This a brave confession and I come to you not only to seek help, but also form a common comraderie with others in my situation. I hope I can adopt this board as my new home.

I love women. I absoultely love women. But I have this feeling they don't love me.

The real situation is that I have been avoiding the opposite sex, afraid to say anything to them, and get insanely jealous when I see couples in love.

"why couldn't that be me?" I would often think.

All men deserve to have a shot at getting laid. That is my platform. I will not rest until you, me and everyone in this board gets their night in the sack with a female. We work hard, we cross our t's and dot our i's, we pay our taxes, we suffer under the lash (for you kinky types, that could be a good thing!), and break every bone in our body. We have earned it. For those who stay at home and whine, sack up!

Hail Don Juan!

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not to support any other dating guru's or anything.

But i think you should start with Double your Dating by DD.
It will reframe your thinking, then come here and look through this material.

How have you managed to go to 40 and not have sex? man if it was me i would be living in amsterdam by now! even though i have never paid for it and hopefull never need to, but 40 years off the nest, that would push me too it without a doubt.

First of all, welcome aboard!

I am 40 years old and still a virgin. This a brave confession and I come to you not only to seek help, but also form a common comraderie with others in my situation.

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You're not the oldest virgin that I've known. I know a guy who lost his at age 42. His religion kept him from losing his V card because of the whole "no sex before marriage" thing. He lost the V card when he left the religion.

I love women. I absoultely love women. But I have this feeling they don't love me.

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It takes some time to actually recieve "love". You need to put yourself out there in order to experience it. The worst risk to take is not taking any risk at all.

Do you have any kind of dating experience whatsoever? Would you care to share some of it? That would give us somewhere to start with where you've been going wrong.

Desdinova said:

First of all, welcome aboard!



You're not the oldest virgin that I've known. I know a guy who lost his at age 42. His religion kept him from losing his V card because of the whole "no sex before marriage" thing. He lost the V card when he left the religion.



It takes some time to actually recieve "love". You need to put yourself out there in order to experience it. The worst risk to take is not taking any risk at all.

Do you have any kind of dating experience whatsoever? Would you care to share some of it? That would give us somewhere to start with where you've been going wrong.

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Since I was 19, I have had no experience whatsoever, except for a night of necking and fondling when I was 17. All of my adult life, I have been overweight and conditioned myself subliminally that I was a total zero. Unimpressive jobs, failed post-high school attempts in trades, and never leaving the house, have led to bad finanicial decisions, compulsive behavior and negative thoughts that have maintained my weight problem. Bad health and motivaiton have led to diabetes type II.

The only bright spot in the past 10 years is my college, and I am almost finished with school, that will hopefully lead to better jobs and hopefully a new start.

But even sharing the campus with ladies that are half your age is absolute torture. I surf kink porn(every body likes something!) and hang out in chat rooms, which is the only way I can get my fix without going nuts, but that has run its course.

I found this site by typing "what women really want" in google and I found sosuave.com. This site is more or less geared towards 20 somethings, but just passed the mark at XL, and determined to go out and get some at last, I may catch up on what I missed or failed to learn when 20 years younger. At least I am being as honest as I can, and I appreciate your support.

As for PT, I walked 2 miles, benched press, stretches, sit ups and am going to read some of the DJ Boot Camp manual I downloaded. I like the set up so far.

I'll keep you posted on what goes on.

Thanks. Don't let the bastards win!

I can relate to some of what you've said. I lost my virginity at 21. I too was overweight as a teenager, and didn't have many social skills. What I did was take up boxing, and started working out. I joined the Marines, and that took care of the being out of shape part.

Don't let some of these ass clowns get you down. This forum is here to help people succeed with women. Your posts are legitimate, and hopefully you'll find the tools to help facilitate your quest.

This site isn't totally geared towards the 20 somethings. The "Mature Man" section has quite a few posters in their 30's and 40's

Good luck to you.

All of my adult life, I have been overweight and conditioned myself subliminally that I was a total zero.

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Knowing your problem is the first step to recovery.

But even sharing the campus with ladies that are half your age is absolute torture.

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It's only torture if you prevent yourself from trying to land a date with one or more of them. It's a form of self-torture. You're the only one preventing yourself from succeeding.

This site is more or less geared towards 20 somethings,

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I beg to differ. You're never too old to love a woman! We also have the "Mature Man" forum on here. There have been many your age and older that have come through here. Your age only limits your success if you believe that it's a handicap.

I suggest you do the bootcamp. Also, if you feel that you're not ready for the hot 20-somethings, start on the lower end of the scale (the less attractive 20-somethings, the unattractive 40-somethings) just to get yourself used to being around women. Then, work your way up. Sometimes it takes baby steps to get where you want to go.

Here's the good news: Women don't rate looks and age as a #1 qualifying factor for a man. They base their decisions on how they react emotionally to your personality. If you can make a woman FEEL excited, you're as good as gold.

If you believe you can be successful with women, you WILL be successful!

REAL BITTER TRUTH COMING FOR YOU

NO. THEY DO NOT LOVE YOU.

BECAUSE YOU TALK LIKE THIS -> This a brave confession and I come to you not only to seek help, but also form a common comraderie with others in my situation. I hope I can adopt this board as my new home.

WTF IS THAT?

HONESTLY THIS **** BOTHERS ME. PEOPLE COME ON HEAR SEEKING THE TRUTH AND PEOPLE ACT ALL NICE AND SUGAR COAT EVERYTHING.

THE REAL REASON YOU HAVE NO WOMEN IS YOU SOMEHOW MISSED THE ****ING TIME IT WAS TO GET A LIFE AND BE NORMAL. I REALLY DOUBT YOUR GOING TO LOSE IT NOW AT 40 UNLESS WITH A HOOKER OR WITH SOME SORT OF MAIL ORDER BRIDE AT BEST.

YOU FAILED. THE ****ING BITTER TRUTH.

Either get out there in the real world, and learn how to converse normally and then go get a ****ing girl. They are going to be old and ugly now. But you can do it. Grab your balls and get out there. REAL TRUTH.

Holy prick alert, Batman.

You can always tell from the ALL-CAPS. Ever see an Oakland Raider fan talk online? "BLAH BLAH RAIDERS RULE! ALL OTHER TEAMS SUK! RAIDER NATION"

Anyway.

Yep, go check out the mature man forum. You are obviously not stupid, and know exactly where to begin: your body. I know the motivation isn't there, but believe me the changes will happen quick and will have a direct effect on the state of your confidence.

I mean, the guy above may be overstating it but he's at least somewhat right. If you're looking to bang the head cheerleader of the college's football team, she might be a little out of your league right now. But that's not the point. The point is just to get started. Do something. ANYTHING!

I am older, too (31), and am just starting on the road to recovery from a lousy attitude to life. But it's been around a year now and I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. Just get out there, and so will you.

Bvbidd said:

REAL BITTER TRUTH COMING FOR YOU

NO. THEY DO NOT LOVE YOU.

BECAUSE YOU TALK LIKE THIS -> This a brave confession and I come to you not only to seek help, but also form a common comraderie with others in my situation. I hope I can adopt this board as my new home.

WTF IS THAT?

HONESTLY THIS **** BOTHERS ME. PEOPLE COME ON HEAR SEEKING THE TRUTH AND PEOPLE ACT ALL NICE AND SUGAR COAT EVERYTHING.

THE REAL REASON YOU HAVE NO WOMEN IS YOU SOMEHOW MISSED THE ****ING TIME IT WAS TO GET A LIFE AND BE NORMAL. I REALLY DOUBT YOUR GOING TO LOSE IT NOW AT 40 UNLESS WITH A HOOKER OR WITH SOME SORT OF MAIL ORDER BRIDE AT BEST.

YOU FAILED. THE ****ING BITTER TRUTH.

Either get out there in the real world, and learn how to converse normally and then go get a ****ing girl. They are going to be old and ugly now. But you can do it. Grab your balls and get out there. REAL TRUTH.

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:yawn: Heard it. Next caller...

realsmoothie said:

Holy prick alert, Batman.

You can always tell from the ALL-CAPS. Ever see an Oakland Raider fan talk online? "BLAH BLAH RAIDERS RULE! ALL OTHER TEAMS SUK! RAIDER NATION"

Anyway.

Yep, go check out the mature man forum. You are obviously not stupid, and know exactly where to begin: your body. I know the motivation isn't there, but believe me the changes will happen quick and will have a direct effect on the state of your confidence.

I mean, the guy above may be overstating it but he's at least somewhat right. If you're looking to bang the head cheerleader of the college's football team, she might be a little out of your league right now. But that's not the point. The point is just to get started. Do something. ANYTHING!

I am older, too (31), and am just starting on the road to recovery from a lousy attitude to life. But it's been around a year now and I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. Just get out there, and so will you.

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I don't think faider nation can type, let alone own a PC. Thanks for the tip.

Just got done reading "Lazy=Masterbation" by bondjamesbond and "Be A Man" by Pook, and I have to say that these have kicked my butt really hard.

The first article singled me out like a spotlight on an escaping convict at San Quentin. The goldbrick the author was referring to was no other than recruit CloneWolf getting his grill slapped by the DI, drawing some blood. Discipline is beginning to materialize, slowly but surely.

I have made no effort whatsover to meet anyone. Guilty as charged. I shouldn't gripe because it's no one else's fault but mine. There is no excuse.

The three things it takes to meet women or anyone:

• Work, hard work
• Dedication
• Patience

The second reading lesson was the Alpha Male Indoctrination aka Be A Man, by Pook.

"Man" was a testamony of what women really want, and it described the sharp contrast betweenthe puke-inducing Nice Guy and the homicide-inspiring Jerk.

Ladies go for the jerks every f***in' time. Nice guys are basically sanitary napkins, plain and simple. A man with the following:

• Ambition
• Charge
• Decisiveness
• Backbone
• Kindness
• Stability
• and CONFIDENCE

is just as likely to get some sexual activity as the Jerk, but definately more than Nice Guy in an apron (see Jim Backus in Rebel Without A Cause as James Dean's dad(in submissive small caps-**** lingo) who is henpecked to the yolk.).

I hope you're having a good weekend, and if you finally get lucky tonight, congratulations.

Keep you posted during "Week 1"