Just thought I would make another post.

I am reading the DJ bible to great effect some fantastic stuff in there and you can see it applies to all aspects of ones life and not just Picking up girls.

There is one thing that I have not come across yet which I personally feel is very important in this life improving game and something that comes up an awful lot. My background was one from a poor estate going to poor result public schools and avoiding the main crowd which usually consisted of who was the most hard person and not who had the best to offer in the way of education and merit. Simply put the hard guy attitude and the alpha (if you want to call it that) was very popular, me being a 11stone semi average guy with spots, made me try to avoid that lime light. The intelligent guy was not considered ‘in’ unless he had other attributes to offer, it had to be tagged with the ideal of the alpha type I keep seeing cropping up on these boards, but saying that even the dumb ass’s who had no intelligent past there bicep’s still held a lot of kuudus (or respect) and was very much into that ‘in’ crowd too. Me I sat back observed and tried the best I could to manage in the face of most of the fit girls going for the above ‘in’ male.

With all this my confidence was not great, I did not feel attractive and I poured my life away locked in my own self doubts and beliefs, unable to shake the resolve. Needless to say I left school with no qualifications and little self respect, due to my social status at school, being shadowed by the alpha type guy. Incidentally I consider myself to be above average looks but a nice does of spots in my teenage years killed my confidence and respect I had from girls at the time. It gets more interesting I promise I had tried all creams to reduce or remove the spots I had nothing worked at all but I attributed far too much importance to them anyway.

So I left school realized my life was going down the swannie and I had a low self image of myself, but something inside of me woke up, no longer was I being judged by the alpha and felt inferior, I was left with my own thoughts and my thoughts where getting pissed off!
I decided I need to take action, went down to a careers adviser and wanted to find out my options.
The best thing was college so I enrolled there, at college I worked to improve my education and try to relive the annoying self doubt, routed from what I believe to be spots! I came across Benzyl peroxide creams and my face started to clear, my confidence grew but in small steps, girls started to notice me, i was becoming more myself.

I went from one college to another and started dating girls, lost my virginity at 17 (I was not ever attractive or felt attractive with spots by the way), girls I had them onto me like you would not believe, I had crowds of girls around me and my sisters used to bring female friends over just to sit and giggle looking at me, this was a guy who was not good-looking at school at all.
My confidence soared.

I had a few LTR learnt a lot but you can never learn enough, drifted from one job to another.

Time went on, but I was never gifted in picking up girls at all and the spots kept coming back and still do to this day I am 31!
(indecently my confidence still comes and goes with the spots even now, but now I have found ways to remove them almost completely, each time my confidence soars!).

My relationships ended with AFC stuff you read in here, I could see my issues not really understanding them till it was all too late, I grew but I grew the hard way, always learning lessons from the other side the hard side, I still do now and prob’ cant shake that, my recent divorce proves this to me and shows me where I go wrong even knowing it was wrong but never believing till it happens! Me being being boring predictable and generally morphing back into a shell of my true self! No surprising my women lost interest! But in all fairness there was red flags I choose to ignore anyway, which is another lesson learnt the hard way.

What’s the point of this post?

Well I want to spell out a few things that has effected my success with women from being a spotty faced unattractive guy to a guy who has slept with well over 100girls, dated 5 at one time, bedded 3 girls in the same day! No 3some though been out with 6.2f leggie blondes, girls with great bodies as well has UG and even fat ones, when an urge takes over. Now I am back on the scene I strangely came across this site per chance where there is a hell of a lot of fantastic information.

I met a guy around the age of 24, I was peed of with relationships and having the type of women that was not met by choice but by circumstance.
This guy was amazing, he would go up to any girl he liked and just get on.
He did not pander to them, he did not supplicate to them, he was natural (too natural actually).
He never made them feel better then he was.
He always treated women on his terms.
He was successful in life, more so then me a lot more.
Girls loved this guy, he was dating 9 girls at a time, one went another came and I am not joking here.
The guy had looks, but not stunning but he had a way with girls I never understood.

I could not believe girls would be into him, he did not try to be nice, he did not put them on a pedestal he was just himself and he had more respect for himself then anyone I had ever met, period. This made ppl shine to him, he loved who he was and he made no excuses. I watched him but never understood, I was still in the treat em nice faze, by them drinks, be happy in the company and basically worship them (there where times when test’ kicked in these where times I met my girls looking back).

I watched him and listened, he was amazing.

But what do I consider to be one of the most important lessons I learnt from this guy?
One day I went into his room to find a little snippet of his mind frame and came across a book.
I am not endorsing the book, so I wont put its name, there is something that I want to share.

An extract:
If you want to have success, associate with successful people:
Success breads success.

It goes on:
Negative ppl:
Negative ppl are in respect happy with there lot, they are comfortable with thier world outlook even if it is poor and cant imagine success ever happening to them. They are happy but frustrated! Fine for them you think, but how does it effect a success focused mind or someone who seeks to get success?

This negative framing makes a lot of negative ppl ( a hell of a lot infact) get jealous when they see someone else having more success then them ( a mate when he sees you with a fit blonde and him getting pissed, or your family not accepting you can reach higher then they can). When these ppl see you with success they will try to pull you back down, they cant imagine anyone other then them having success and it makes them feel uncomfortable. They hate it when it is someone they know.
So we can see: surrounding your self with negative ppl is not good, exp’ if they project there limited believes onto you!
Each success you get if you associate with negative ppl will be stripped from you and turned into another failure and you will remain at there lvl.
But having the frame of mind of ‘now I know so I can avoid it’ is simply not enough, basically if you consistently surround yourself with negative ppl, then eventually they will cloud your reasoning and dampen that success and before you know it your are exactly like them, spouting your limited believes to the next guy/girl who is simply better then you are.

Examples of this:
1. You pull a perfect ten ‘how can you get a fit bird your x or y’, your mate says or your family e.t.c
2. You get a promotion ‘how can you get more money, your x or y’, your mate says or your family e.t.c
3. You try to improve a part of your life ‘what are you doing that for and they laugh at you’, your mate says or your family e.t.c
All examples of a negative influence's in your life.
It must be cleaned out for your success, your negative bum friends need to be cut off and removed, if you want to grow, this is hard to say but it is true!

Brings me back to my learning days:
My successful friend and me went out a lot, simply due to I wanted to ‘learn’ from him and not pull him down, eventually I did and his success was becoming my success.

Successful ppl recognize growth and potential in others and they will support you!
Find yourself successful role models ppl that are ‘better’ then you in many areas of your life and learn from them

I am lucky since my divorce I am meeting some very successful, positive ppl and not facing the negative ppl that are abundant in our society.

Do not look on success on others with jealousy or anger look on it with an opportunity to learn something about them.

Another great tip.
If you see a rich man, do not expect anything from him, if anything if you get the chance you should be the one offering things to him i.e a cup of tea, take ‘him’ somewhere and offer him, not the other way around because he has ‘far’ more to offer in wisdom then any cash can ever compensate for.


Simply the whole point.
Do not surround yourself with negative ppl, do not let others influence your choices in life when you know it is right, see opportunities in all things.

Me, I am in an ok job far better then something I could have got when I left school, pushing to learn a degree, growing my friend base, trying to pick up the pieces from a failed marriage (again I treated like a means to grow, I learnt a lot about myself, that I can now try to work on). But importantly I can see a positive future for me simply due to the fact I will socialize with the right ppl and keep my thoughts and actions as pure and positive as I can be and not be influenced by the 'cant' culture that is inherent on a lot of the population. I will succeed and I know you all will too!

I still come across ppl from my old school that still have not grown about themselves and I still hear the occasion jibe or taunt, or I am contact with ppl that do, just remember these ppl cant tolerate your success so they are trying to pull you down to there lvl or below so they can feel better about themselves (it is never truly about you, ever!)
So if your in a negative situation do what you can to remove it or avoid it, you cant change ppl you can only change yourself, but if you cant remove it, understand they do it due to there limited beliefs about them and not about you and 100% of the time there is a quality in you they lack and it bugging the sh** out of them!

My true success happened when I learned from successful ppl then my natural traits where amplified and focused out to far better then ever and I am still growing, growing a lot and looking forward to the man I will become someday!

I hope this small story is of importance to some one on here and I can share in at least a successful positive belief that may help one, to be more natural and focus on success rather then your outside influenced self doubt!