Dating this girl, going great we hang out all the time...she's leaving town for afew days so I call her the night before. She doesn't pick up but txts me about an hour later?, here is what she says.

Her: "Sorry I was watching T.V...what're you doing tonight?"
Me: "I'm going to a bar tonight for a little."
Her: "Alrighty, have fun"
Me: "I wanna see you before you leave"
Her: "I wanna see you too, i don't know what time I'm going to bed though, txt me when you get back"

I call her around 12am because she's usually still up and she doesn't pick up. At 4:30am I get a txt message saying "so sorry, I'm upset..I fell asleep while waiting" I just want some insight on this situation and if anybody thinks it seems sketchy or not...I know she had to wake up early for a flight but I don't know it's driving me crazy

Remulak said:

Dating this girl, going great we hang out all the time...she's leaving town for afew days so I call her the night before. She doesn't pick up but txts me about an hour later?, here is what she says.

Her: "Sorry I was watching T.V...what're you doing tonight?"
Me: "I'm going to a bar tonight for a little."
Her: "Alrighty, have fun"
Me: "I wanna see you before you leave"
Her: "I wanna see you too, i don't know what time I'm going to bed though, txt me when you get back"

I call her around 12am because she's usually still up and she doesn't pick up. At 4:30am I get a txt message saying "so sorry, I'm upset..I fell asleep while waiting" I just want some insight on this situation and if anybody thinks it seems sketchy or not...

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This is what my ex g/f did to me before I went away to college. She knew I was leaving and broke it off with me, and was actually seeing other guys. This is what I'm going to say, if you think it's sketch.....it probably is. When my girlfriend told me she was busy for a week I wondered what the hell was going on. I trusted my gut and called a friend who she didnt know that I knew. He told me he saw her with another guy.

I'm not saying she's cheating, but it sounds like she's distancing herself from you.

My advice is to not worry about it. Just do what you like to do, go out with your friends.

Eventually she'll try to get in touch with you.

Good luck man. This situation sucks.

Be patient

Wait it out and see what happens

if she didn't want to talk to you she wouldn't have texted you...

:rockon:

Damn, I'm really hurting inside...I don't know for sure if it's over but since she's been out of town she hasn't texted me or anything (5 days). After she said she was sorry for missing my phone call the next day I sent her:

ME: "It's alright, have fun and I'll ttyl."
HER: "Thanks "

Notice she didn't say anything like "I'll call you when I get back" or anything like that.
One day she was holding my hand and smiling and the next day she's missing my phone calls. I know it's only been a month and a half but I tried staying detached the whole time and emotions always leak through. The only mistake I really made was I was too available, mainly because she called me everyday and we hung out a lot. I never professed love for her or anything AFC like that. All I can do is be indifferent and not contact her....let her contact me I guess.

Ya its hard wondering but your only action should be indifference as anything else will have a negative effect.

It wouldn't hurt to focus on some other women as well if this relationship is just a casual one.