Emotional Health

[TheDarkSaint]

As older guys, how do you guys constructivly handle negative emotions? It seems we spend a great deal of time on here talking about sets, closes, approches, going out and doing it, but to deny that we get angry, or that we are hurt, or depressed is very dangerous.

I'm curious as to how people handle the following.

Anger

Jealousy

Pride

Saddness

[TheDarkSaint]

I'd have to say the the emotional health of older men is diffrent than the younger ones. I'm very diffrent at 29 in dealing with issues than I was at 22. I've been there at 22 and I'm looking for responses from older guys.

[MacAvoy]

I am 22 years old, how do you deal with your emotions differently than how I deal with my own?

By being mature enough to respect the rules of a forum that state it is for mature men over 25 years of age.

[Bad_Lil'Pixie]

I'm curious as to how people handle the following.

Anger

Jealousy

Pride

Saddness

Anger: Run, miles and miles and miles, bike, swim, etc.. Physical exertion seems to assist me in not saying hurtful things. After that, then I face it, rationally and with kinder words and actions.

Jealousy: Own up to it. I am an extremely jealous person and I suffer the consequences of that. To me, once I realize that it is just jealousy it is easier to handle. Denying it, or lying about it, only makes it harder. We all have downfalls and this is ONE of my many.

Pride: Well, I just admitted I had downfalls. I am not too proud to admit that I can make mistakes. For example: My hubby and I were recently in a heated discussion, I said, "You are not listening to me". He corrected me, he said he was listening, he just wasn't agreeing with me. Listening does NOT always equal agreeing. He was correct.

Sadness: Cry, face it. I try not to hide it and let it create other emotions like anger. My lover has very broad shoulders and I use them. Evaluate if I had any control over it, could I had prevented it? Was it beyond me? Sometimes sadness can only be healed by time. Allow that time, be selfish and take the time for yourself.

Exercise, holding my tongue, owning up to these emotions and being accountable seems to be a way through a lot of my challenges.