Summed down to the most basic components, I believe that there are three inner game problems which constitute almost all of the rest of the problems that there are in between you and getting the success of your dreams.
HOW to overcome these faults is another post, another book, another library. But if you focus on your goal, often the best guide is experience, trial, error and thought.
1) Fear.
"The many headed parasite". I think you already know the importance of this. Fear is the cause of so many many negative emotions. It takes away your freedom. It stops you doing what is right, but instead whichever option is least frightening. You don't see something for what it is but what you imagine it to be, and the frightening imagined vision of it means you will never let yourself find it out for yourself.
2) Ego.
"I don't need to change, I'm already perfect".
"I'm better than that scum".
"He is SO much better than me
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"I feel so inferior to him".
"He's below me".
The idea of inferiority and superiority, as well as being meaningless (so you mean to say that if he's less intelligent than you, he deserves bad things to happen to him?) is DESTRUCTIVE and PAINFUL. The need to feel superior warps you view of the world and leads you off your path. The pleasure of pride brings an exponential payload of insecurity. The more inflated with pride you are, the more brutally you deflate when somone attacks you or you are shown to be wrong or lacking in those areas you are proud of. Feeling superior leads you to hate those supposedly "below" you. All hate comes from ego.
Do you compare yourself to others to measure your success?
Is your goal in life to be RIGHT or to be HAPPY? Always ask yourself what you are trying to achieve by your actions. If your mental image of the goal shows you being the smartest greatest person in the world and everyone looking at you in awe, realise that you wouldn't be happy if you got it. The prouder you get, the more insecure you become. Pride is an addiction that brings way down the quality of your life in order to give some brief, unsatisfactory highs.
3) Authority.
Most people are sheep. It's the way of nature, the tribe gets its leader and the rest follow peacefully. Makes evolutionary sense huh? The leader has his mission and leads the others in accomplishment of the mission. The others look to him for what to do.
It's a feeling. The more you act like the part the more people see you as the part.
People look to others for what is "right". Think about this a moment. What IS right? How do you know what you SHOULD or SHOULDN'T do? If you don't have any goal or direction in life then there is nothing that can tell you. If you're going nowhere how do you know how to get there? So if you don't know what's right, you must look to others to see what they think is right. (Laws, ethics, religion, taboos, other people's opinions...)
If one person has a strong idea of what is right, he will stand out. The other people have no idea, so they are overpowered by that person's sense. That is how people are lead. This person has CHARISMA.
Look to yourself and your values for what to do, not other people. To have the path of the arrow and not be swept about like a cork on the waves, you must know what is right and believe in it. People's opinions don't matter to you. If you believe in good then their happiness matters though.. So you're not polite so that you look good but POLITE BECAUSE YOU WANT OTHERS TO BE HAPPY.
Good luck.
HOW to overcome these faults is another post, another book, another library. But if you focus on your goal, often the best guide is experience, trial, error and thought.
1) Fear.
"The many headed parasite". I think you already know the importance of this. Fear is the cause of so many many negative emotions. It takes away your freedom. It stops you doing what is right, but instead whichever option is least frightening. You don't see something for what it is but what you imagine it to be, and the frightening imagined vision of it means you will never let yourself find it out for yourself.
2) Ego.
"I don't need to change, I'm already perfect".
"I'm better than that scum".
"He is SO much better than me
""I feel so inferior to him".
"He's below me".
The idea of inferiority and superiority, as well as being meaningless (so you mean to say that if he's less intelligent than you, he deserves bad things to happen to him?) is DESTRUCTIVE and PAINFUL. The need to feel superior warps you view of the world and leads you off your path. The pleasure of pride brings an exponential payload of insecurity. The more inflated with pride you are, the more brutally you deflate when somone attacks you or you are shown to be wrong or lacking in those areas you are proud of. Feeling superior leads you to hate those supposedly "below" you. All hate comes from ego.
Do you compare yourself to others to measure your success?
Is your goal in life to be RIGHT or to be HAPPY? Always ask yourself what you are trying to achieve by your actions. If your mental image of the goal shows you being the smartest greatest person in the world and everyone looking at you in awe, realise that you wouldn't be happy if you got it. The prouder you get, the more insecure you become. Pride is an addiction that brings way down the quality of your life in order to give some brief, unsatisfactory highs.
3) Authority.
Most people are sheep. It's the way of nature, the tribe gets its leader and the rest follow peacefully. Makes evolutionary sense huh? The leader has his mission and leads the others in accomplishment of the mission. The others look to him for what to do.
It's a feeling. The more you act like the part the more people see you as the part.
People look to others for what is "right". Think about this a moment. What IS right? How do you know what you SHOULD or SHOULDN'T do? If you don't have any goal or direction in life then there is nothing that can tell you. If you're going nowhere how do you know how to get there? So if you don't know what's right, you must look to others to see what they think is right. (Laws, ethics, religion, taboos, other people's opinions...)
If one person has a strong idea of what is right, he will stand out. The other people have no idea, so they are overpowered by that person's sense. That is how people are lead. This person has CHARISMA.
Look to yourself and your values for what to do, not other people. To have the path of the arrow and not be swept about like a cork on the waves, you must know what is right and believe in it. People's opinions don't matter to you. If you believe in good then their happiness matters though.. So you're not polite so that you look good but POLITE BECAUSE YOU WANT OTHERS TO BE HAPPY.
Good luck.